Friday, April 23, 2010

If you were here you would be 7months old!

I didn't post anything yesterday but it was a sad day!
Instead of choosing new clothes,  a cake or toys to celebrate Mikaal's 7th month, yesterday I was choosing a stone for his grave and some flowers!
Missing you a lot my angel! Can you come and give me a kiss? I just need you my little baby*

Happy 7th month baby boy!

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Weddings, family reunions, isn't it supposed to be a haapy time!

This weekend was my brother's wedding and everything was going ok and I was having a good time. But when I see other babies my heart breaks. I spent most of the time trying to control my tears. My brother does understand so that is good! But then still had to listen the most horrible things from my "family" (they never met Mikaal, they did not call to say congrats you had a baby, they did not call saying sorry you lost your son). They just said your are young and can't be stuck because of this thing. You'll have more kids so YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON! I'm hurt because they say things like Mikaal was nothing... and Mikaal was, is and always will be my everything!

This poem someone posted on facebook it's just me now...

Written so perfectly

You dont know how I feel , please don't tell me that you do.
There is just one way to know----Have you lost a child too?
"You'll have another child"--Must I hear this everyday?
Can I get another Mother too, if mine should pass away?

Don't say it was God's will-----that's not the God I know
Would God, on purpose, break my heart then watch as my tears flow?
"you have a angel in heaven, a child up above"
But tell me, whom on earth should I give this love?

"Arent you better yet?" Is that what I heard you say?
NO! A part of my heart still aches and I'll always feel some pain
You think that silence is kind but it hurts even more.
I want to talk about my child that has gone through death's door.

Don't say these things to me, although you mean well.
They do not take the pain away, I must go through this hell.
I will get better, slow but sure and it helps to have you near
But a simple " I am sorry you lost your child" is all I need to hear.

After that we got a letter from the hospital. Very nice, they still remember Mikaal! I'll post it here another day!

Monday, April 12, 2010

It has been 2 months

Mikas my gorgeous I wonder what are you doing now...
It's been 2 months since you went to heaven and mommy is missing you a lot my cutie. I wish I could hug, kiss and hold you again...
If you were here I'm sure you'll look more like your father... you would be a big baby now! I guess you would be eating already...
I just wish you were here!!
Come and give me a kiss today so I won't feel so sad ok?
I've always loved you, I love you and I always will....

  Missing you my angel

How to move on...

I don't know nothing about my feelings anymore...
Sometimes I feel I can't be with my husband anymore but I know I love him and he loves me but since our son left this world is just hard being around him...
Sometimes I want to make lots of plans, study again, start work, travel... but other days I just wanna be left alone and do nothing...
Sometimes I wanna travel somewhere but then I feel is not right, it feels like I'll leave my son behind (I know he's not here only his grave is)...
Sometimes I wanna be happy for other people who have kids but it feels like impossible, I feel angry, I feels jealous of them...
Sometimes I just wanna be pregnant again but it doesn't feel right... it feels like I want to forget Mikaal with another baby...
Sometimes I just want to be "normal" and don't feel this pain anymore but I can't...
Sometimes I just wish I could die but I have to wait for my time(to get a chance to see Mikaal in heaven)
Sometimes I wish I could have a little happy day but it doesn't seem possible...

But everytime I only wish my son was here again with me...

It's getting harder everyday!

Friday, April 2, 2010


PLEASE - don't ask me if I'm over it yet. I'll never be "over it."

PLEASE - don't tell me he’s in a better place. HE isn't here.

PLEASE - don't say "at least he isn't suffering". I haven't come to terms with why he had to suffer at all.

PLEASE - don't say "well, you're lucky...he would have been born with a lot of problems." Would you love your own child any less if they had been born with problems?

PLEASE - don't tell me you know how I feel unless you have lost a child.

PLEASE - don't tell me to get on with my life. I'm still here, you'll notice.

PLEASE - don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up."

PLEASE - don't tell me that "God never makes a mistake" or it was God's will." You mean he did this on purpose?

PLEASE - don't tell me "at least you had him for 3 days. Or, "at least you know you can get pregnant. "What year would you choose for your son to die?

PLEASE - don't tell me God never gives you more than you can bear. Who decides how much another person can bear?

PLEASE - Just say you are sorry.

PLEASE - Just say you remember him and our excitement if you do.

PLEASE - Just let me talk if I want to.

PLEA PLEASE - Just let me say his name without turning away or changing the subject.

PLEASE - let me cry when I must.

Mikaal's story by Everylifehasastory Thanks Malory

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