Friday, April 2, 2010


PLEASE - don't ask me if I'm over it yet. I'll never be "over it."

PLEASE - don't tell me he’s in a better place. HE isn't here.

PLEASE - don't say "at least he isn't suffering". I haven't come to terms with why he had to suffer at all.

PLEASE - don't say "well, you're lucky...he would have been born with a lot of problems." Would you love your own child any less if they had been born with problems?

PLEASE - don't tell me you know how I feel unless you have lost a child.

PLEASE - don't tell me to get on with my life. I'm still here, you'll notice.

PLEASE - don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up."

PLEASE - don't tell me that "God never makes a mistake" or it was God's will." You mean he did this on purpose?

PLEASE - don't tell me "at least you had him for 3 days. Or, "at least you know you can get pregnant. "What year would you choose for your son to die?

PLEASE - don't tell me God never gives you more than you can bear. Who decides how much another person can bear?

PLEASE - Just say you are sorry.

PLEASE - Just say you remember him and our excitement if you do.

PLEASE - Just let me talk if I want to.

PLEA PLEASE - Just let me say his name without turning away or changing the subject.

PLEASE - let me cry when I must.


  1. Very well said. You can talk to me about him anytime you need to and I am sorry and I am praying. He was your little miracle, how could you not want to talk about him? I have these thoughts often too. *HUGS*

  2. I thought it would be a perfect way to express how your feeling.
    I know this poem meant so much to me when Zak first died.
    Just know that no matter how alone your feeling there are so many, far too many, of us that understand your pain.

  3. Thank you... I really needed to post the poem you sent me! I was very angry that day and this poem really express everything I wanted to say... Thank you for the love!!


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